Shared by a visitor:
“I have been reading this blog because I have a husband that I am seperated from because of porn and other issues. For all of you out there struggling … I will tell you from the propective of the “other” spouse. I knew my husband had an addiction to porn before I married him and we talked about it and he promised to stop. I thought I could fix it that our love would “fix” it. It didnt. He struggled on and off for long periods of time. Sometimes he was successful sometimes not. I begged him to tell me when he was struggling but he refused. I always found out by Checking Up on him. It was always devasting to me everytime I found out. I feel like he cheated on me everyday we were together, he never understood those feelings. He was always ashamed and made promises but it never changed. If you have someone to talk too I encourage you to do so, parent, preacher, counsler, wife, husband freind. Let them help you, if they love you they will. Dont let them find out the ways I did , It was awful and worse than the truth.”
Thank you for sharing this with me and the visitors to this blog. I just started reading the book I Surrender All by Clay and Renee Crosse and I would highly recommend it just based on the first 50 pages I have read. It provides a clear picture of how destructive Pornography is to the marriage relationship. The book switches back and forth between Clay and Renee’s perspective so you can get a feel for how each of them felt as they had to deal with Clay’s battle with pornography. The book might let you get a glimpse into what your husband is thinking and how his struggle with pornography might be the root cause for these other issues.
I will keep you and your husband in prayer.